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If you're dating a widower or widow as someone who has themselves lost a partner, it pays to remember that everyone copes with grief and loss differently.
As psychotherapist Hilda Burke explains, everyone's experience is different and there are no hard rules about when to move on.
Again, this isn't about replacing anyone or denying their memories - but it is about giving each love in your life their own space.
Eva Ibbotsen writes ''you cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying overhead, but you can stop them nesting in your hair.'' This is a great mindset for anyone dipping a toe in the widow dating pool: whilst you can't stop grief and sadness paying a visit, it is up to you how long you let them stay.
This is true of both the past and of anyone new you might meet.
Indeed, you cannot expect that every new date will be perfection but you approach them with the right frame of mind.